DHARMA, LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS
Nowadays, a relationship really can be quite a test—we might have to go through all kinds of difficulties. But, as Sogyal Rinpoche shows us, if we consistently apply our understanding of mindfulness, compassion and our unchanging innermost nature to our emotions and actions, a relationship can become both a cause and a part of our spiritual progress.
This series of teachings is divided into four parts:
- General Advice
- Falling in Love & Starting a Relationship
- Being in a Relationship
- When a Relationship Ends
Video Teachings
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Format
Downloadable Video
PART 1: GENERAL ADVICE
Relationships show us how we really are and as such, they are an opportunity to learn about ourselves and to let go and change.
Video 01
Advice on having a good relationship
Munich, 8 June 1997Video 02
Don't kill love with attachment and concepts
Dzogchen Beara, 26 June 2008 & Amsterdam, 17 May 2008Video 03
Breaking concepts
San Francisco, 27 May 1998Video 04
Accepting change and uncertainty
Lerab Ling, 16 July 2013PART 2: FALLING IN LOVE & STARTING A RELATIONSHIP
Take a moment to be clear and honest about what you want and where you are going. These teachings might give you a better chance of making a success of a new relationship.
Video 01
The difference between attachment and attraction
Dzogchen Beara, 9 July 2000Video 02
Keep the love, avoid the falling
Paris, 26 February 1999Video 03
Before you start, check to see whether you're suited
Amsterdam, 17 May 2008PART 3: BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP
Use your relationship to work on yourself and apply the teachings to your life and actions. Use your love as a challenge to go beyond yourself, beyond attachment, concepts and patterns and find unconditional love. The way to love is to be completely open and fearless in your love, no matter what.
Video 01
How to improve relationships
Berlin, 28 June 1998Video 02
How to resolve the conflict within ourselves
Poconos, 5 June 1998Video 03
Resolving domination
Poconos, 5 June 1998video 04
Dealing with jealousy
Dzogchen Beara, 20 December 1997Video 05
Quench the fire of anger with love
Sydney 26 February 2005Video 06
Advice for getting married and partnership
Lerab Ling, 3 August 1996; New York, 27 October 1997; Hamburg, 8 November 2004; Dzogchen Beara, 20 December 1997 & Millfield, 6 April 1998Video 07
Let go of attachment, be open and spacious
Dzogchen Beara, 6 July 2010PART 4: WHEN A RELATIONSHIP ENDS
Letting go is a process we all have to go through, one that helps us grow as circumstances change. We can learn to accept the truth of impermanence and let the teachings hold us.
Video 01
Pull yourself together
London, 9 December 2007Video 02
Strengthen yourself with practice
Sydney, 7 March 2008Video 03
You're free
Lerab Ling, 4 April 1999Video 04
Letting go
Paris, 29 June 1998If you are interested in hearing more teachings from Sogyal Rinpoche on these topics, you might enjoy digging out the following old ZAM CDs and DVDs from your shelves, borrowing them from your friends or purchasing them through ZAM:
- Advice for Dharma Practitioners on Relationships, CDE019, an audio CD with 3 tracks.
- Relationships, CDE018, 3 audio CDs with a total of 17 tracks.
- Dharma, Love and Relationships, Rigpa Link October 2009, CD/DVE728, an audio CD or DVD with 5 tracks.
For your information: 11 of the 18 videos downloadable on this page for free come from the 3 ZAM releases mentioned above.
